Live, breathe, eat ‘change’…
Aside from the time I’m interacting with my children, I’ve pretty much have thoughts of ‘change’ in my mind. I am ‘hungry’ for change, I mean really ‘hungry’. I’m not going to accept ‘no’ because the life I’ve built in the past no longer suits what I envision for myself for the future. I know what it takes to do a big change where I am changing directions in life. This is the only time in my life that I’ve ever been this hungry for this big of a change that I should have done years ago, but years ago, I didn’t have three adorable little faces looking at me and desiring for their mother to be there for them.
My goal is to build a lifestyle business where I can have the flexibility in life to be there for my children when they need me. I intend to be ‘fully present’ every day to manage my time to enjoy my children. I really felt it wasn’t going to be okay any more to work for someone else because it is an unsustainable lifestyle to have someone else manage my freedom. I’m fully capable of managing my own freedom, thank you! Ha… that sounds funny, but so true. I’m no longer going to be a slave for money, that to me is what I call an unsustainable lifestyle. Oh, but you say you need money to have freedom. That statement is simply not true and one day I’ll talk about that some more. I heard a quote today that I thought was very funny, it was “I will never have enough money to buy all the things I do not need and I’ll never have enough time to do all the things I shouldn’t be doing ~ Anonymous”.
Change is often hard. We’ve all heard of the term ‘growing pains’. People don’t generally accept change, it poses a threat to what they’ve grown comfortable with but with anything in life, real growth requires change. It may be gradual or in some cases seem sudden, though I am sure what some see as a sudden change was something that was gradually being planned out for months or years from someone else that never bothered to share that thought.
Change requires discipline. For sure, it would be far easier to relax in front of the tv at the end of the night, surf the internet, post on social media sites or wake up when you have to. I don’t get those luxuries any more. I often wake up at 4am because my head is filled with inspiration that I just have to get out and share. When my husband is enjoying a relaxing evening of mindless tv, I’m often busy away either learning about something new for my lifestyle business or actually building my business. Truth of that matter is, I don’t miss those times when I’m relaxing doing nothing.
Change requires desire. Change has to be fuelled by desire. Where there is lack of desire, there is no change that will stick. I didn’t get this hungry for a new life overnight. I probably had months of struggle and frustration of wanting something new but not knowing what that was. The only reason why I ended up having more focus was because I really desired change in my life. In hindsight though, I know now that those moments of frustration were also growing pains.
Change requires focus. Without a goal, you can’t focus. There’s a big goal ahead for me and I suspect when I reach that goal, I’ll have another. That’s always how it’s been for me, I’ve probably ‘reinvented’ myself at least 4 times already and each time I had a goal and I was driven to accomplish it.
At the end of the day, change is inevitable. Change will either happen to you or you can make change happen. The choice is yours, if you want your life to be a reaction to what’s around you or a creation of what’s within.
This post has primarily been from the viewpoint of a mom working full time, I’d love to hear from all moms. I especially would love to hear from the stay at home moms. What changes do you desire for a better future? Please share your story below in the comment section.
Keep loving and learning and making a difference, however big or small!